@FoundTheVegan I don't actually play any MMOs, never have really grabbed my attention but still doesn't stop me from endlessly playing games due to them being Round-Based or never-ending games like Minecraft. Thanks for the advice though.
@Scrof Oh don't worry already went through a lot of Depression, it seems to be one of the reasons I play Video Games. To 'escape' from the real world it's just getting in the way of some of the things that might make me happy such as Video Editing.
@Monster96 I have both Autism and Fibromyalgia so I have been registered as never being able to work. My goal is not to go full no Video Games what is the hard part, The Games I play just get in the way of the the possible carer I feel I can create for myself (Video Editing if your wondering) but they also regulate my stress and i've tried going full cold turkey with them before and my life got to one of the lowest points due to no stress regulation. Thanks for the comment though.
Multiplayer games in general are hard to regulate. MMO’s, Mobas, FPS, ARPGs. This games are designed to swallow weeks of your life before you react. When I stopped playing these type of games it didn’t become as much of a problem to regulate my gaming.
Write down what an optimal day for someone your age, in your living area, looks like. Weekly activities. Exercise. Etc. Start implementing the we things into your life at a pace that isn’t to slow but not too fast either.
Set goals what most of your days should consist of. Most days. Don’t set routines that are too nailed down. Don’t go overboard. Excersise three times a week? Two days need to be back to back but the third can be anytime during the week? Things like that.
Work this into your routine. Take one step at a time.
If I regret one thing at the age of 37 it would be not having some kind of exercise in my weekly routine from my early 20s. I would be in sooo much better shape, have more energy, be more alert.
@hogart Thank you, Even know I don't have issues with weight (at least not over weight) this is really helpful. I know I can't go full cold turkey over the games otherwise I fall back into them hard and it's good to see other people say to slowly get myself off them. Luckily I never have got into the MMO side of things as I'm sure I wouldn't even be messaging to people online at the point, I mainly play round-based games such as CounterStrike, limiting my play and replacing it with something else slowly is probably the way to go. Thank you.
It’s pretty self moderating. Every 5 years or so there’s a game i might be mildly interested in, play it for a few hours until I’m bored of it. Rinse and repeat
@andyMFK That would be nice, I seem to move towards games that have repeatable play like Minecraft, CS2 and ETS2. I always seem to struggle with keeping a good work, game and life balance.
Maybe lay off video games for a while till you manage to accumulate a level of willpower that lets you cobtroll yourself easier while gaming. At your situation professional help from someone who knows about this shit might be better help.
@WeLoveCastingSpellz I tried to go full 'Cold Turkey' before but it just made me even worse and fell in even harder than I normally am to the point I was staying up for days on end just playing games. I know I need to seek professional help but it costs.
By living on student loan and playing them endlessly until I got bored of the lack of things I haven’t seen before 😂. Now Im bored of them I managed to land a good paying job but it mostly goes towards paying the student loan 😅
Find a hobby to do on the side that you can use, maybe something with progression so you have something to focus on and track progress to keep you wanting to do that and not just stick to playing games. Something like drawing, learning an instrument, maybe even exercise, whether it be standard gym stuff or something else like skating or bouldering. If you still want to stick around a computer for whatever reason, maybe learn to code? Having a creative outlet will help loads to keep you from games if you have troubles endlessly playing them because you start getting the creative itches that makes you want to get something done related to that hobby, instead of just procrastinating.
@MrScottyTay Thanks yeah one thing that I hope to replace my time with is Video Editing it's been something that I really enjoy when I've done it in the past and I think it's time to focus on that more than games.
Listen, if you are neglecting your household chores or other important duties, then it doesn’t really matter how much time you spend playing games. Time you enjoyed spending is never wasted, and if you enjoy playing games on your downtime, then do it.
@Kit Exercise isn't the problem as I'm actually really underweight and can't put it on. It's more the case of making sure to take showers, eating and getting fresh air, stuff like that.
@Kit I understand therapy will help me in the long run it's just unaffordable as of the moment, as soon as I can afford it I will be getting regular therapy sessions as I really do need them.
@Kit I know about one a charity in the local area that does have 'counselling' but I have had a LOT of feedback about how they are and they are really not equipped for things such as Addiction, Autism or being Trans so it seems like they are not an option, I will see if I can make an appointment for my doctor to go through a many things I need help with.
The way my morning routine around showers work is that I bring the clothes I will be wearing that day to the bathroom with me when I go to the toilet in the morning, and then after the toilet I undress my pjamas and immediately take a shower and then I get dressed for the day.
This can also be done if I decide to shower in the evening then I go to the bathroom have a shower, brush my teeth and then but on my pjamas that was on a shelf in the bathroom already.
Could something like that work for hygiene, you have to go to the toilet so take the shower while your in there. And have a change of clothes on a shelf or drawer in there so you can just put the new stuff on afterwards.
@SgtAStrawberry That could help, I think one of the key things I need to look in getting is a shower cap as I know my hair doesn't need cleaning everyday and there's a lot of it to dry every day.
If you need a shower cap to shower more and comfortable then definitely get one. I never really got the point of them.
In my country we have hand showers or have a hand shower together with a fixed one in newer places. The only exceptions are public places like gym. So we don’t have as much of a need for shower caps, we can just not aim the water towards the hair. The only one I have actually seen in real life was one that came free with some magazine.
@SgtAStrawberry That's fair enough, I know it's something that I will most likely need as my fair is quite long (As you can probably see in my PFP) and it's quite bad to clean your hair everyday but thank you for all the suggestions.
I can maybe squeeze in an hour of gaming every third day if I am efficient (work and household stuff) and lucky. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, just there are many games I want to experience so I have to be very selective.
@kandoh That's what I'm normally like for bigger games but then I always find some game that can just fill up my time to the point I've paid twice the amount of time the 'Big' game would have.
That’s nothing to feel guilty about as long as you’re not neglecting trying to find a job and self improvement. Your 20s are rough, all opportunities available are pretty shitty and exploit your energy and inexperience. Videogames are a great way to stay sane during this.
@kandoh I know my career path is right there with Video Editing I just seem to end up doing games over editing and it's something that I will most likely have to seek professional help in the future for.
Be careful with games without stopping points. Also be aware of the games that engross you in a way that you just lose track of time, play them only when you can get lost like that.
I think the best way to moderate gaming addiction is to be deliberate and disciplined about your goals. I love gaming and don’t want to be interrupted, so I try to deal with responsibilities first, to get more enjoyment out of an uninterrupted gaming session. Make hard rules for yourself. You want to be fit? Work out before gaming. You don’t even need a great workout routine; consistency will get you there. Use your drive for gaming to reach your goals. That’s my opinion
@Curdie Today I've been trying something where I can play a CS2 (One of the main games I've been playing lately) but I can only play one game (One Round what ever you want to call it). If I lose the game I have to edit my video I've been holding off on for quite a while down by another 30 minutes of footage, If I win I have to still edit but I can edit anywhere between 10 minutes to 20 minutes of footage down. So far this seemed to have helped a little bit and I hope it will get easier as I have less of a backlog of videos to edit through.
Nice! That approach would be terrible for me but I’m stoked you’re finding things that work for you. What kind of video are you editing that contains so much footage? If you don’t mind me asking.
@Curdie I don't mind at all, I've done little vlogs and stuff in the past my last recording session for about 3-4 months ago for Trans Pride Brighton where I was in the march and got lots of footage, I also had a slight holiday for another day or so in Brighton so got a lot of recordings well I was there.
Allot yourself a certain time of the day to play them. Basically, schedule your play time and only play during that play time. That’s what I do. I play at a certain time of the evening, for 2 hours maximum. Otherwise I don’t really touch my games. If I’m doing something else at that time that I feel takes priority (such as working on something or doing something else with friends or family) then I’m probably just not going to play that night. That’s basically how my friends and I helped get one of our group out of a gaming addiction: hanging around with his brother at their place doing other stuff. Over the course of a few months he slowly would come out and make his way closer to us or hang around in the doorway of his room watching us for increasingly longer periods of time, until he eventually would actually log off the game and join in our activities. We just consistently got together at the same time every week. Nothing more to it.
@Grangle1 Glad that worked for them, I sadly don't really have any friends online or not so it's not really an option. I've been trying a play one day, do some work approach today as almost a reward for doing the task, this seemed to have worked so far but there's probably a better way for it in the future but it's a step.
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