I can maybe squeeze in an hour of gaming every third day if I am efficient (work and household stuff) and lucky. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, just there are many games I want to experience so I have to be very selective.
@kandoh That's what I'm normally like for bigger games but then I always find some game that can just fill up my time to the point I've paid twice the amount of time the 'Big' game would have.
That’s nothing to feel guilty about as long as you’re not neglecting trying to find a job and self improvement. Your 20s are rough, all opportunities available are pretty shitty and exploit your energy and inexperience. Videogames are a great way to stay sane during this.
@kandoh I know my career path is right there with Video Editing I just seem to end up doing games over editing and it's something that I will most likely have to seek professional help in the future for.
Finding a hobby does not involve therapy lmao literally just try different activities until something makes you feel like you are playing your favorite game.
@Mago In another comment I got suggested to Gamify my life a little as that could help with being stuck on games all the time, what I feel might be the best route to go as unless I end up doing E-Sports or something I probably won't quite get that 'itch'.
@ArbiterXero Thank you, I can't afford Therapy sadly, What I know would be a really helpful tool not only for dealing with my possible gaming addiction but other struggles that I use gaming to help 'mend'.
I know from years of small experience that I am interested in Video Editing and I know that's one of the things I'd like to make time for instead of gaming. I know it's going to take time especially as I don't want to lose gaming fully from my life as it's a good relaxant.
Maybe lay off video games for a while till you manage to accumulate a level of willpower that lets you cobtroll yourself easier while gaming. At your situation professional help from someone who knows about this shit might be better help.
@WeLoveCastingSpellz I tried to go full 'Cold Turkey' before but it just made me even worse and fell in even harder than I normally am to the point I was staying up for days on end just playing games. I know I need to seek professional help but it costs.
I agree with what others have said about gamifying life. For example, ‘oh it’s 5pm, I need to spend 30 minutes doing some tidying before I can play a game again’. And for games with no clear end point, set yourself goals so you know when to take a break. ‘Once I’ve built this factory, I need to take an hour’s break before I can play again’.
@OmegaMouse It's actually what I've been trying out today, I didn't know that's what people meant by Gamify your life I more thought they were saying to give myself a score for doing tasks and stuff.
Currently doing play a game of CS2, if I win then I have less work to do but if I lose I have to do twice the amount of work and then I can go back on. This is almost like a reward / punishment system for myself to try and not only play the game (or not lol) and then just do the task. Once I have no tasks left I'm free to enjoy what ever game I like without worrying about they I got that thing to do.
Yeah I guess that’s my take on ‘gamifying things’, but there’s probably a few different ways to do it. I’ve heard that in psychology, rewards are a lot more effective than punishments - so maybe frame it slightly differently. Personally I wouldn’t base things on how well you do in the game, because that could get frustrating - in the worst scenario you’ll already be annoyed at doing poorly in the game, and that’s followed by having to do more work. Instead I’d spin it, so if you do all the tidying reward yourself with an hour of gaming. If you get all your chores done, you get 2 hours of gaming etc.
@OmegaMouse I guess that could work, I would really just have to try which method would work for me in the end but I will hopefully get to the point I still get to enjoy the games I like as well as do the things I should / need to do.
Allot yourself a certain time of the day to play them. Basically, schedule your play time and only play during that play time. That’s what I do. I play at a certain time of the evening, for 2 hours maximum. Otherwise I don’t really touch my games. If I’m doing something else at that time that I feel takes priority (such as working on something or doing something else with friends or family) then I’m probably just not going to play that night. That’s basically how my friends and I helped get one of our group out of a gaming addiction: hanging around with his brother at their place doing other stuff. Over the course of a few months he slowly would come out and make his way closer to us or hang around in the doorway of his room watching us for increasingly longer periods of time, until he eventually would actually log off the game and join in our activities. We just consistently got together at the same time every week. Nothing more to it.
@Grangle1 Glad that worked for them, I sadly don't really have any friends online or not so it's not really an option. I've been trying a play one day, do some work approach today as almost a reward for doing the task, this seemed to have worked so far but there's probably a better way for it in the future but it's a step.
Be careful with games without stopping points. Also be aware of the games that engross you in a way that you just lose track of time, play them only when you can get lost like that.
Find a hobby to do on the side that you can use, maybe something with progression so you have something to focus on and track progress to keep you wanting to do that and not just stick to playing games. Something like drawing, learning an instrument, maybe even exercise, whether it be standard gym stuff or something else like skating or bouldering. If you still want to stick around a computer for whatever reason, maybe learn to code? Having a creative outlet will help loads to keep you from games if you have troubles endlessly playing them because you start getting the creative itches that makes you want to get something done related to that hobby, instead of just procrastinating.
@MrScottyTay Thanks yeah one thing that I hope to replace my time with is Video Editing it's been something that I really enjoy when I've done it in the past and I think it's time to focus on that more than games.
By living on student loan and playing them endlessly until I got bored of the lack of things I haven’t seen before 😂. Now Im bored of them I managed to land a good paying job but it mostly goes towards paying the student loan 😅
My wife keeps me in check. Not in that she’s telling me when I can play, but that, I’m thinking about her before and while I play, and whether or not I’m being considerate.
@Rhynoplaz It's one of the reasons I hope to not spend 10+ hours a day on games as I do enjoy my time with my partner but it has turned into you watch things on the TV well I play some games that I've already been playing all day.
Do you play games, or do you play a game endlessly. If it’s games then it might be easier to sprinkle other activities into the mix like learning to play a musical instrument, etc. If it’s a game, especially if it’s a live service game, MMO, hatch’s, etc, then they might have successfully tapped into “your formula”, in which case if recommend dropping the game entirely. Games like that are specifically designed to keep you playing indefinitely.
As a lifetime gamer (40s) staying away from 'service' games with an endless endgame really does help for self regulation. If there is 'a game' that you just zonk out on the gameplay loop thats the blurst. If I get a game I like it to be a game with a conrete ending now, there is a 'final' final boss, there is a dungeon meant to be the last challege. If it's just 'SUPER HARD AREA X WITH DROPRATE OF THING YOU WANT' fuck that. Especially if you hear game dev talk about having to design these kind of casino models really turns you off to them.
@FunkyMonk I'm glad I never have really got into MMOs. Thank you, I'll most likely have to seek help but hopefully with some of the things people have suggested I can at least take the first steps to helping my life.
@JoMiran I luckily haven't got into MMOs as of yet, it seems that I end up playing different games but will play each one endlessly the main problem is that I use gaming as a way to relax from stress but then lose myself inside of it. The more I look at it, the more I feel I need therapy over it as it seems like a addiction I will most likely not get out of without help.
My big thing after graduating like others have said we’re other hobbies, I got into painting, 3d printing, sometimes just watching TV. Most of the games I play now are single player I hardly play multiplayer games anymore. I used to be too into destiny and games like that but I just eventually wanted to play games I could pause and go do other shit
@Jaeger86 I have other hobbies in Video Editing and stuff, I just always seem to put them to the side to play games or watch TV. The further I look through the comments the more I feel I might just have an addiction to gaming.
I tend to hyperfixate. So I got into habit of getting up every 3 hours, going outside, walk around block. I will say to self, get up, right now, out of this chair, outside, now. Been doing this so long now, it’s become habit, part of daily routine. Has helped a lot.
@31415926535 That's a good way, I saw somewhere sometimes just starting the smallest part of another task especially things like washing up and stuff can set you to do the whole thing in one go sometimes and if not if you come back to it in an hour or so, your mind might just go "Oh, Theres less, let's slowly finish it through the day" so you keep on coming back to the task. Thank you, I'll see how I can do this in my life.
I only really tend to play with a group of mates - the most fun to play with is like four or five hours ahead of me, so when they hop off, the whole group tends to head off at the same time. If we don’t, it’s usually just a smaller game that we have fun with for like an hour before finishing.
Basically, I push being responsible off onto someone who is actually responsible.
I make games a fallback activity. If I can go be social, I’ll pick that instead. I date people so I try to spend time with them.
I set timers. Every hour or two the timer goes off, and I have to go do something else. Either something productive like an errand or just something not on the computer.
I have a full time job. I never play games when I’m supposed to be working. I work from home so it would be easy to fire up the other computer and play a little between work stuff, but that’s a horrible idea so I don’t.
I have a self imposed bed time. I had to use an alarm for this for a while but now it’s just habit. Also I’m getting old so I get tired sooner.
@jjjalljs Ok, defiantly sounds like I have a addiction to gaming. I seem to put gaming before my partner (as well as previous partners, when I was with them). Annoyingly my goal is to replace some of my gaming time with other tasks such as Video Editing what I'd like to create my own business about but I keep on making walls to why I should not do it such as the easy my bank has still not sorted my online banking for my business so I can't edit for people, there's no point in even editing for myself or even booting the software.
I saw a suggestion from someone else to possibly Gamify my life what sounds like a good thing to do. It's nice to know some people can just do it, thank you.
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