I only played partially through the first and the most graphic sexual thing I remember there were the little cards you'd get, which don't require any actors.
Actual sex scenes are incredibly rare. In most cases, which are still rare, it is implied with some cuddly scenes that fade to black. I think the most "explicit" sex scene I've seen in a regular game was in TLoU Part 2.
Imo Odd Realm and Songs of Syx can very much stand on their own. DF is cool and has lots of depth, but the UI & UX still is quite lacking and "meh" at best. You also have only that one race to play as, which I guess is the name of the game but not that interesting if you don't really care much for dwarves. I'd also argue that the graphics in Odd Realm & Songs of Syx are much nicer.
I'd hope a "faceless" character like V in Cyberpunk that you can customize to your liking. I always struggle with RPGs that have predefined characters, because they often kinda go against what in my mind would be a possible personification in that world, and that potential clash makes me struggle with immersing myself in it.
I don't care for gamepads, but I agree on the dated part. Original TQ feels very sluggish, slow paced and limited in its movement nowadays. Kinda why I also couldn't get into the newer addons since their return. I wonder if TQ2 even addresses this in a meaningful way. The build variety I hope will be about as good, if not better, than what TQ had to offer - which was definitely one of its strong suits. I'm glad they're back though, and that they have the rights to their title back as well. TQ and probably Hellgate were probably the hack'n slay games I played most aside from the Diablo franchise, which now can go fuck itself.
I do like the graphics though. Gives a painted feel without looking cartoonish.