I also bought the Long Dark when it was still new in early access. Haven't played it since, but it was fantastic even then and I felt I got my money's worth.
Grim Dawn is easily the best commercial (which is to say, not free like PoE) ARPG out there. If you like PoE, it's probably the closest you'll get to something similar in that character builds are more complex and customizable than in other games.
Meanwhile, I find even the "smaller" XBox controllers to be utterly unusable and have/had no troubles at all with the PS3 controller. Would be nice if there were more options for each console so that both you and I could be satisfied, but sadly that is not how it's done.