Yeah Pathfinder 2e is good. It’s more crunchy than 5e, but that also means there are rules for most situations that come up. I like the 3 action system, much better than the old, “main action, swift action, move action, move- equivalent action” thing the old version had going on.
Sounds a bit like my partner, who doesn’t like most action games. For a game you could play together, I think you could try a “creature collector” type game, like pokemon. There are actually a lot of creature collectors, pokemon is just the most popular, but there are cheap digital games on the switch store that are made by Pokemon fans and from what I can tell are better in a lot of ways.
You can also emulate all of the old console games for free, that’s what my partner did for a bunch of Pokemon titles.
Just finished playing Dawncraft(a “souls like” Minecraft mod) multiplayer with a friend, and we called it a day after we killed >!notch!< and then got wrecked by >!“divine elementals”!<. Back to Disco Elysium now.